You have already taken the first steps by recognizing the porn addiction and learning
more about its cause and effect. Can there be healing? Can you keep the
marriage/relationship together? Absolutely. Is there a lot of work to be done? Absolutely.
First, make a commitment to change. If you continue to do what you did yesterday, you
will get yesterday's results.
Decide how you will get help and support.
No matter which course of support and healing you choose, please know that:
more about its cause and effect. Can there be healing? Can you keep the
marriage/relationship together? Absolutely. Is there a lot of work to be done? Absolutely.
First, make a commitment to change. If you continue to do what you did yesterday, you
will get yesterday's results.
Decide how you will get help and support.
- Read more about porn addiction and the healing process through our
recommended reading list. All books can be ordered confidentially through
Amazon.com.
- If you belong to a church, consider seeking assistance and support there. There are
more couples facing this epidemic than you realize.
- Seek professional help from a therapist. This could be individual therapy or couples
therapy. You can find one through the health care providers directory provided by
your insurance company or through online or yellow page directories.
- Depending on the background of your relationship, you may want to consider
joining a 12-step program
No matter which course of support and healing you choose, please know that:
- This is about him, not you. You did not drive him to the computer. He made his
own decisions and his resulting addiction.
- You will feel worse before you begin to feel better. Check out the Porn Healing
Paradox.
- Both of you need to mend. Although it is tempting to focus all attention on getting
him help to stop his online activities, do what you can each day to get yourself on a
healthier path as well.
- Respect his need for privacy as well as yours. There is a great deal of shame and
secrecy with a sexual addiction. There is a sexual stigma in our society that is hard
to overcome. Family members and close friends may not be your best advocates.
- Only through calm, open, honest and frank discussion will there be a platform for
rebuilding trust. Let him know how his addiction has affected you and your family.
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