How to Stay Sane During the Holidays with an Addicted Spouse or Partner
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It doesn't sound like much fun celebrating the holidays with a heavy heart. Having family close to you should seem
comforting yet if you and your partner are dealing with his addiction to pornography, the elements of secrecy and shame
you both feel may add to your stress level. Consider the following:
* Having family come to visit, or vice-versa, often puts people on their best behavior. It is one thing to get caught by your
wife looking at porn. Imagine the mortification if his/your mother or adult sibling saw him? He would never be able to live
it down. Talk about this ahead of time and decide on a porn-free holiday. This could be a catalyst for a porn-free New Year.
* You will be staying busy. Get togethers with family and friends will keep both of you plugged into various activities and
obligations. Porn addiction relies on isolation so the two are not compatible.
* Use caution when talking to well-meaning relatives and friends. As stated previously in this site, your best advocates will
be counselors or women walking the same path as you.
* Keep the computers off and the laptops at home. Most businesses are closed for the holidays. If you don't have a pressing
need to go online, don't. If your family life is stressful, having a computer available could be asking for problems.
* Your holiday may not be of the Norman Rockwell variety but you can enjoy it nonetheless. Enjoy time with your family
and stories of past holidays. If you can, use the next week or so to let go of your problems and have a joyous time.
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Do you or your husband/boyfriend have a New Year's resolution relating to his addiction? Share it with PAH
and we will consolidate ideas for a list of possible New Year's resolutions to be posted on December 30th.
Bookmark us and come back for ideas for a Great 2008!
comforting yet if you and your partner are dealing with his addiction to pornography, the elements of secrecy and shame
you both feel may add to your stress level. Consider the following:
* Having family come to visit, or vice-versa, often puts people on their best behavior. It is one thing to get caught by your
wife looking at porn. Imagine the mortification if his/your mother or adult sibling saw him? He would never be able to live
it down. Talk about this ahead of time and decide on a porn-free holiday. This could be a catalyst for a porn-free New Year.
* You will be staying busy. Get togethers with family and friends will keep both of you plugged into various activities and
obligations. Porn addiction relies on isolation so the two are not compatible.
* Use caution when talking to well-meaning relatives and friends. As stated previously in this site, your best advocates will
be counselors or women walking the same path as you.
* Keep the computers off and the laptops at home. Most businesses are closed for the holidays. If you don't have a pressing
need to go online, don't. If your family life is stressful, having a computer available could be asking for problems.
* Your holiday may not be of the Norman Rockwell variety but you can enjoy it nonetheless. Enjoy time with your family
and stories of past holidays. If you can, use the next week or so to let go of your problems and have a joyous time.
***
Do you or your husband/boyfriend have a New Year's resolution relating to his addiction? Share it with PAH
and we will consolidate ideas for a list of possible New Year's resolutions to be posted on December 30th.
Bookmark us and come back for ideas for a Great 2008!
