                        He                                                                                     She
* Feels a new level of honesty and truthfulness                             * Feels the level of his disloyalty and deceit more intensely
* Has a new level of appreciation for the marriage bond               * Is saddened to realize how little the marriage has meant to him
* Finally has the accountability he was looking for                         * Senses the shame and secrecy of being married to an addict
* Loves her more than he ever has before                                      * Has never felt less loved,valued or secure

                       Bottom Line: He wants congratulations for something that makes you want to throw up.

The emotions listed above are true and valid for both the man and woman yet are polar opposite. Why does this happen? He has
been holding these feelings for a long time and is very familiar with them. It is a welcome relief for him to disclose his secrets and
come clean.   Sharing his burden with you means you now get to grieve over the loss of the relationship as you knew it to be. You
get to feel some level of the shame he felt. You also have a finely tuned sense of distrust towards all of his actions. Welcome to
the temporary insanity that healing from a porn addiction brings to a couple.

Be aware of the porn healing paradox as both of you move forward. Share this with him so he understands and appreciates your
viewpoint as both of you work on becoming whole again. He needs to continue to earn your trust. And you need to continue to
work on healing yourself and becoming open to trust again.

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The Porn Healing Paradox

He Recognizes His Problem with Porn and Is Getting Beller So Why Do I Feel Worse?